When you had me, you were 32 years old…
…and when I moved out of the house to start my grown-up life, you were 54 years old.
Being al that you’ve done for me, there is no way that I could possible thank you enough.
But I’m going to try.
I’d like to give you over 7500 minus of pure bliss, love, peace and laughter. If it was up to me, you can have the whole world in your hands. That is not nearly enough of what you deserve.
Thanks for being my mom–for all that you’ve done and all that you continue to do. Plain and simple.
Thanks for giving me life….and thanks for making it good.
Happy Mother’s Day
I got an idea to showcase some things in life that I love…listed in alphabetical order.
*Anything involving Julia Roberts, Mariska Hargitay and Janet Evanovich
* Anything written in French and decorated with hearts
* Air Max Sneakers
*Burt’s Bees Natural Skin Care Products
*Comedian, Eddie Murphy
- Crown Moulding
- Daydreaming during the day
*Dresses by Maggie London
* hoop earrings
* Investigation Discoveries
* “The Law of Attraction”
* Messy non-uniformity
* Northern California
*New York Times
- Prayer & meditation
- Range Rovers
- Real Simple magazine
- Red haired women
- “Remember the Titans”, movie
- shoe stores in Greenwich Village
- St. Kitts
- Soul melodies
- walk-in closets
- Wedding Receptions
- Zen bath time
- Zip lining
- Zoos without cages and bars
I showed you mine…now show me yours.
“Build your own dreams, or someone else will hire you to build theirs” Farrah Gray
For more reasons than one, I have strongly contemplated being a self- proclaimed, self-developed, self-empowered and self-employed individual. If you knew what kind of mind I have, you would know that on a consistent basis I have a million ideas about personal development, running through my frontal lobe. With every movement I make, I make it a point to incorporate ways to move towards my goal of self sufficiency. Instead of looking to others with the experience and to give me insight, I decided to create my own list of reasons to work for yourself and build a solid legacy for the future. I truly believe in investing in oneself in order to gain the financial freedom that is desired. I haven’t been in the workforce that long; I would say 15 years. During that time, I cannot say that I fully “loved” what I did for a living. For me, loving what I do is doing something that I love. Like anything, there are pros and cons to decisions and choices in life. Without hesitation, the pros out weigh the cons. So this is a list that convinces ME to move forward to be a proprietor of my own legacy.
1) FREEDOM OF FLEXIBILITY
This is number one on my list. I have a hard time asking permission for the natural liberties that I was given as a citizen of the United States of America. In my opinion, I think it is ludicrous that I need to ask my superior….two weeks in advance… for a day off to go to the beach. I truly believe that a responsible adult can have as much time off for mental rejuvenation and personal enjoyment without being reprimanded. Some companies in fact allow staff to make to schedule their personal time at their discretion, as long as the productivity was up to par. I seriously don’t understand why that it is a complex concept to some. It makes perfect sense to me. It is shameful that employees are terrified to ask their supervisors for a break in daily work. As a sole proprietor, you have the means to work as much as you want…or not. It is true, that most owners of successful businesses are workaholics; feeling that their name and brand are more important to risk a week in the Bahamas. In all honestly, I probably will feel the same; but at least I have the authority to make my own decisions.
2) DECISIONS, DECISIONS
Following directions is not simplistic. Polices and procedures are blueprints to a specific structure on how something should be. I myself don’t alway follow the blueprint. I know single handily know that if you have a problem exercising the company’s vision in success, you will be immediately escorted out the front door. I think, it is OK to not always agree. What is not OK, is when creativity and open-mindedness is stifled for the wrong reasons. I do not have a “A type” personality, but I will consider myself to be very strong-willed. In the recent years, I have noticed that I have became more frustrated with the decisions making of projects and procedures and such, which left me felling powerless ….situations that I cannot control.Iit has taken me some time to understand, that I may have not a voice in a matter, or my opinion is not needed. When you are in charge of your own empire, you have the opportunity to have more control of the direction you want to verve. For me, the “sink or swim” attitude is a risk I am willing to take to be successful in any business venture.
3) FINANCIAL GLORY
I don’t live in a fantasy world. I understand that millions of dollars will not just fall from the sky and land on my lap. Self-made entrepreneurs have definitely been through more bad than good to achieve their goals. On the outside looking in, it seems that it is easy-breezy to own and operate a business. However, I am not naive; I comprehend fully the hard work, dedication, consistency , challenges, struggles and sacrifice it makes to run a successful operation…let alone create a profit.
When I was in college, I was told the best way to achieve the “American Dream” is to work hard….and get a good job. For some people that fits. What was omitted from that equation was MY truth. I do not have be in the workforce for 30 years to know, that in order to make money and keep money is to invest in MYSELF. Given a hourly wage or salary, based on what someone else feels I am worth is an insult to me as a person. If you make $10/hr, and put in 40 hours a week, your take home pay may not seem as rewarding as the effort it took to put in. In a sense, it really isn’t about the money. It’s more about the opportunities. It is not easy or common for people to think outside of their teachings; to take unknown risks. If the concept was easily obtainable, everyone would be in business of themselves.
Having a conditioned mind and heart is not necessarily bad. I do not fault others for making a living, taking care of themselves and their families; essentially working hard. For me, I want to be in change of my destiny. In my eyes, truth and happiness lies in complete surrender to my goals and aspirations. I know people who truly can say out loud, “I love my job, and I love what I do”. I will not be fully satisfied until I can make a living do what makes me shine. Leaving a name and legacy for my future family will only make it more worth while. What are your career goals??
New beginnings once again…..
It seems like everyone is in such a hurry to put 2013 behind. Apparently, there has been some tribulations and challenges that was not foreseen. I’m happy to hear that my friends and family are eagerly anticipating a brand new start; positive movement. As I’ve started in a previous blog, I’m not a fan of “resolutions”. I understand that goals are important, and it’s good to have them. But unfortunately, resolutions don’t live past February. As you expect better life changes in the coming year, MAKE them a reality as oppose to just a wish. Actually put them in action. For example, make a goal for every month. Write it down…create a plan. By December 2014, you have at least twelve completed “resolutions” that were achievable.This may take some time and effort but this is YOUR life. If you are not going to invest in greatness and success, who will!?!?
The bottom line is, take care of YOU. Focus on YOU. I guarantee the more you spend time doing what you want, the happier you will be. Write that book, open that business, even quit that job. Yes I said it! No doubt that you will be more in love with your life. If I’m wrong, I want to know about it. So now what are you going to do in 2014 that will take you to new heights?
Whatever it is, make it happen. Take advantage of your choices.
Miracles & Blessings